Modest is Hottest
“Thousands of girls that think beauty is an outer issue, and really it’s a heart issue.” — Kylie Bisutti
I seriously stood up and began clapping when I heard the former Victoria Secret model say the above quote on Good Morning America this week.
If you haven’t heard the news, 21-year-old Kylie quit one of the top paying modeling gigs in the world because she felt increasingly convicted about how her body is for her husband, and lingerie modeling wasn’t honoring the commitment she made to him.
But more importantly, she knew her career wasn’t honoring the Lord. So she quit.
She could have taken the easy way out. She could have said she wanted to focus more on acting, or they were thinking of starting a family…but she took the harder option:
The truth.
Kylie confessed her convictions, admitted where she felt she had failed, and at the same time, caused every other lingerie model to at least consider their own moral dilemma.
She has no intentions to quit modeling. But she will only be taking wholesome jobs from now on.
Now, most of us will probably never have to make the decision Kylie did. But we all have to make the choice to choose modesty.
I haven’t done modesty perfectly. I remember one dress in particular that I wore to watch the 2005 Miss Tennessee pageant. (Mind you, I competed in 2004 and had every intention of coming back to compete in 2006.)
I knew I wasn’t going to be on the stage in the center of attention, but I also wanted to make the pageant directors want me to come back to compete again. I needed a way to stand out…while sitting in the audience.
Enter: shocking dress. It was far too short, too low cut, and hugged my body way too close.
But I wore it anyway.
It worked. I turned heads every place I went that night.
But I hated every second of it.
I felt so uncomfortable. Not only was I cold, but I hated the way I was being looked up and down. I felt cheap. I felt used.
But most of all…I felt like a total hypocrite.
I talked like I was God’s little princess…but I looked far from righteous royalty that night.
Moving forward, I made the decision that “modest is hottest.” Not only does covering myself up protect me from ever having to go through the same emotions I had that one night, it protects the males around me too.
For those of you who aren’t married yet, if you think like I used to, you may think, “Well, I don’t have a husband yet, so my body still belongs to me.”
Wrong.
Our bodies belong to God first.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” — 1 Corinthians 6:19–20
Looking out for our husband’s good begins at birth, not when we meet him.
“She brings him [her husband] good, not harm, all the days of her life.” — Proverbs 31:12
I’ll conclude with a plea to the young girls who may stumble upon this article:
Please remember Kyle’s words that true beauty comes from the heart. God created you to be so special. You are the only you He put on this Earth. Please don’t make the mistake I did and sell yourself short by trying to look like something He didn’t create you to be.
Dress in such a way that when you meet your husband, he falls in love with your heart first. The kind of man you want to marry will be so thankful that you protect his mind from wandering where it shouldn’t. And he will be even more thankful that you aren’t displaying yourself for every other man to see.
Modest IS hottest.
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wow, just like one of the former contestants on America’s Next Top Model..she wouldn’t model bra/panty because it was for her husband only and refused to do some of the ‘challenges’
awesomeness for standing up for what she believes!
I love 1 Corinthians 6:19–20 helps keep me on track…
I really have a great deal of respect for anyone that is able to put their faith first and do what they feel is right in their heart. But even looking at this blog entry as a non-Christian, I am able to walk away from the article not only admiring this womans strength but also this quote “Please remember Kyle’s words that true beauty comes from the heart.” applies to every single person out there regardless of their faith or religious path. Love it! Thank you for sharing!
I love love love this. I wish we could help young girls understand that truth, that modest is hottest. Especially here in Florida where “less is more”, it’s hard for girls to grasp this concept. I see my 14 year old sister struggling with it all the time. But what a great example this girl is setting. Thanks for sharing her story!
You GO Girl. And some of you male models, take a hint too!!!
Oh Michelle I loved this post. Love Love Love! I love your heart and I so hear you. I haven’t always done Modest perfectly either. Thanks for being such an example to us all. Praise Jesus.
LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!!
loved this post, michelle. i hadn’t heard about kylie’s decision but it’s one i greatly respect. loved your take on it!
Great post! I love that this woman stood up for her beliefs; think of how her husband (and God!) must feel right now. Proud, thankful, glad to have his girl to himself (in both cases).
I think that’s so neat she took that chance and put herself out there to honor God. What a public stand! And a great reminder that indeed, modest is hottest. 
Thanks for sharing!
Michelle, you are right on with this. And I applaud Kylie for standing up for what she believes in, no matter how hard it was. God was glorified in this situation & that is exactly how it should be.
I have been doing the Secret Keeper Girl dates with my 9 year old daughter to teach her about modesty. So far its going great. But sometimes it is hard to buy clothes from the store that are actually modest, even for a 9 year old. I am thankful that though I’m not creative (like coming up with my own things) I have the ability to copy or to sew things so they fit my daughter better. Layering has worked beautifully too. I pray that as she grows up, she’ll continue choosing to dress modestly.
Thank you for admitting your faults as well & for also choosing to share so that many people can learn how “Modest is Hottest”.